One of the things I thought I might explore with this blog is the question “would I really prefer to live in Victorian times?” I think that people tend to romanticize eras that they are attracted too and forget the icky parts. And every era has them….even ours. The questions are, did we give up to much of the good things of the Victorian era for the good things we have now or has it been a steady up hill climb? Or does it all balance out in the end with each era having just as many good points and bad points as the other eras. Is it simply a matter of accepting what is and what you are used to?
Today, I want to explore text messages vs hand written notes. For myself, I hate texting. It takes me forever to type out what I want to say…it would be faster to just call. And don’t get me started on T9! It never picks the word I want! I find people have spelling worse than mine (and I am dyslexic!) because they don’t write out the full words any more. I’m horrified when I see a group of people out for coffee together but they aren’t talking to each other…they are texting people who are not there! I have told my kids that in family gatherings they are not to be texting all the time. I’ll put up with one or two glances at the phone over several hours but no more than that. The family has to believe they want to be there! I can usually tell which teen conducts most of his or her interaction via text messages…they are the ones who are oblivious to things like voice tone, eye contact and facial expression…both in how they send them and how they fail to recognize these cues in others.
But, the upside of texting is I could always keep tabs on my kids. They’d never answer their phone when I called because they couldn’t bring themselves to talk to their mommy in front of their friends. But, they would respond to texts because their friends couldn’t hear the response. Some how I don’t think trying to keep tabs on them with written notes would have been functional.
And yet, the written note has some sweet sentiments. I used to hide little notes in my kids’ lunches when they were little. I don’t know if he still has them but I do know one of my boys kept them for some time after the fact. Some how saving a message doesn’t seem the same when it is a text message.
But, notes could be rude too. Passing notes in class was fun for the sender and receiver but not so much fun for the teacher trying to teach or for the kids who didn’t get to read the note.
I don’t think there is much difference between texts and notes as far as content. They both share information, send fond sentiments, ask questions, build people up and tear people down. They both can be saved for sentiment or for evidence. I guess they are both require an equal amount of effort to make up (unless you are me and it took you 30 minutes to ask your kid if he’ll be home for supper). But, don’t hand written notes seem more personal?
In this case it is a tie. Texting is good because it is a fast way to send a message (if not compose it). But, hand written seems more personal.